My abortion made me a better parent.
Yup, you read that right, I had an abortion and it was positive.
I was 18, immature, in a relationship with someone who was equally immature, and had no direction. Prime material for teen pregnancy.
Shit happens and the pill is not 100% effective.
But despite my teenage condition, I knew that until I was capable of taking care of myself that I could not take care of anyone else.
So I traveled an hour to the closest clinic, had the procedure, which was quick, clean, professional and relatively painless (despite moving into my second trimester). I was almost 9 weeks pregnant before I even realized my situation.
Apparently, the further along a woman is in pregnancy the more complicated the procedure can get. That's why it is so critical to have access to abortion services as early as possible. If I did not have to spend time getting referrals, I would have had the procedure earlier.
It was a very real experience that taught me a lot about who I was and where I wanted to go in life. I am grateful for the lessons learned.
Fast-forward 7 years. I'm married, happy, healthy, financially stable, and expecting. Oh, and did I mention TOTALLY ready for parenthood.
What I knew I couldn't be at 18, I was 25, and again at 28.
And let me tell you, there is a HUGE difference between accidently getting knocked up and consciously making a baby...WOW!
My children were brought into this little plain of existence with more love and desire than some people ever receive in a lifetime and they deserve it.
Everyone deserves this.
Often times I look at my kids and get overwhelmed with the thought that I would not have been the most excellent parent that I am today without the critical family planning choices I made as a teen.
I am able raise my children clearly and thoughtfully, not in a cloud of teenage drama and angst. I am whole-heartedly thankful for this and am so looking forward to the people they become."