We ended a very wanted pregnancy for medical reasons.
This was our first pregnancy and we were ecstatic at finding out we were pregnant. After seven years of dating, my husband and I were finally married, and ready to start our family. Like so many other new parents-to-be, we thought that having a baby was easy—you get pregnant, and nine months later, have a healthy baby. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always work that way.
At our 20-week ultrasound, minutes after being told we were expecting a little girl, we found out that our baby’s spine had not fused completely. A closer look at the screen showed twisted, malformed legs. I felt like I was falling through the earth. A crippling heat swarmed my body and voices became muffled like they are underwater. Our perfect baby girl was very sick. The severity of her condition was diagnosed somewhere between bad and devastating.
My husband and I had long talks. We sought counsel from those we trusted the most. We weighed options and ran numbers and talked past the point of exhaustion. We had to make a choice. Instead of bringing her into a world revolving around surgeries, mental retardation, pain, and suffering, we made the heartbreaking decision to end the pregnancy.
It was the most difficult thing we have ever had to do. And still to this day, if I was presented with the same situation, I would make the same decision. Mothers are the best judge of what is best for their children and must be trusted to make these decisions for their families.